Jeanie Escribi�:

.Like Mips for example , who is the coolest dude ever for having me over @ his place for a weekend and being the perfect gentleman.

heheh Mips is teh ghey :P

X-D

toomuch'stash Escribi�:

Jeanie Escribi�:

.Like Mips for example , who is the coolest dude ever for having me over @ his place for a weekend and being the perfect gentleman.

heheh Mips is teh ghey :P

HA!



in your dreams big boy :P



i hope u aint expecting any prime uk ass when i get to the states, because my shit pipe is one way only im afraid ;-)

mippio Escribi�:

toomuch'stash Escribi�:

Jeanie Escribi�:

.Like Mips for example , who is the coolest dude ever for having me over @ his place for a weekend and being the perfect gentleman.

heheh Mips is teh ghey :P

HA!



in your dreams big boy :P



i hope u aint expecting any prime uk ass when i get to the states, because my shit pipe is one way only im afraid ;-)

And here all along I thought 'In Through the Out Door' was your favourite Led Zep album?



X-D





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I don't know about how girls process things, but I think for most guys, the same qualities that make a girl a very good friend are the same qualities that would make them a good girlfriend.



And so often it's tough to toe that line and know which is which. It comes down, ultimately, to having a good sense of judgement, a good sense of timing, and being able to read what the other person is thinking, I guess.



I know for me personally, I've had female friends in the past who I've WANTED just to keep as friends, but eventually found myself developing feelings for. In most of those cases, I think the feelings were reciprocated, but I wasn't in a position to do anything about it.

I wanted to post about that, but couldn't quite word it right. But I think Darkstar hit the nail on the head there, although there is a difference between being mates and wanting more, sometimes it's so easier for guys' feelings to grow into wanting more. It doesn't mean that they don't wanna be friends, hell, most of the time they're probably too worried about the damage it could do if things were taken further. But sorry Jeanie, it is a bit of a clap in the face to be asked to provide a friends' phone number if he likes you (ugh, couldn't explain that right either). If he's a good guy, and you apologise all will be well I expect. He'll get over it rapidly now that he knows it's his mate you're after.



From your point of view, yeah, it's annoying and awkward, but it's gonna be a concern when you're good friends with a guy and you get on really well. That's probably why girls really dig gay guys - there is no problems like this then!

There's no such thing as a guy who wants to be friends with a female.



Female 'mates' are just girls you haven't banged yet.

toomuch'stash Escribi�:

There's no such thing as a guy who wants to be friends with a female.



Female 'mates' are just girls you haven't banged yet.

Less delicately phrased than what I said, but yeah, that's pretty much the truth.



Is this where I should post the link to ladder theory? :D



http://www.laddertheory.com/

http://www.intellect...sterladder.html

oh come ON!!



u are joking right??!!?? right???



ive got loads of mates who are girls and i just dont think of them in that way. sure i find some of them attractive, but that doesnt get in the way of being mates with them.



and what about girls your friends with who are your mates girlfriends? are u saying u want to bang them too?



yours,



confused of tunbridge wells



ps - found that laddertheory fuckin funny though ;)

mippio Escribi�:

oh come ON!!



u are joking right??!!?? right???



ive got loads of mates who are girls and i just dont think of them in that way. sure i find some of them attractive, but that doesnt get in the way of being mates with them.



and what about girls your friends with who are your mates girlfriends? are u saying u want to bang them too?



yours,



confused of tunbridge wells



ps - found that laddertheory fuckin funny though ;)

I can't say that in absolutely EVERY case of a guy being friends with a girl, he just waiting to bang her, but I can say that in the vast majority of cases, this is true.



That's why I am not friends with any females. I don't want to bang anyone but Whirly.

mippio Escribi�:

ive got loads of mates who are girls and i just dont think of them in that way. sure i find some of them attractive, but that doesnt get in the way of being mates with them.

wait though, upon further thought, I have to ask you... this loads of mates who are girls, are you saying that you wouldn't pressure wash the quiver bone in the bitch wrinkle if the opportunity just happened to present itself? Like, say, one of them had a bad turn with their significant other, and turned to you for comfort, say, the comfort of a sympathetic ear and 12 pints of stella, and it just happened?

mippio Escribi�:

oh come ON!!



u are joking right??!!?? right???



ive got loads of mates who are girls and i just dont think of them in that way. sure i find some of them attractive, but that doesnt get in the way of being mates with them.



and what about girls your friends with who are your mates girlfriends? are u saying u want to bang them too?

yours,



confused of tunbridge wells



ps - found that laddertheory fuckin funny though ;)

Of course, there are exceptions, and I'm being at least somewhat facetious. And still...... sometimes, yeah...... X-D



(Thankfully I've got the pick of the lot, so not an issue! :D )



And ladder theory is DEAD TRUE. :D



Seriously though, the female friends I'm closest to are those who if I think about it are probably more or less compatible with in a relationship sense. I mean, I'm not seeking relationships with any of them, but there IS a reason that we're close, right? We're compatible, at least to an extent.



(And, honestly, without trying to make it so, they're generally the most attractive of the lot, too.)

toomuch'stash Escribi�:

mippio Escribi�:

ive got loads of mates who are girls and i just dont think of them in that way. sure i find some of them attractive, but that doesnt get in the way of being mates with them.

wait though, upon further thought, I have to ask you... this loads of mates who are girls, are you saying that you wouldn't pressure wash the quiver bone in the bitch wrinkle if the opportunity just happened to present itself? Like, say, one of them had a bad turn with their significant other, and turned to you for comfort, say, the comfort of a sympathetic ear and 12 pints of stella, and it just happened?

hahahaha. 'bitch wrinkle'



honestly? honestly? it would depend who it was and what the circumstances were.



(see my 'absinthe confessions' for proof of that ;))



but i couldnt just say yeh or no to that question, its not as black and white as that. and if they were seeing someone, then prob def not i'd say.

Darkstarexodus Escribi�:

Seriously though, the female friends I'm closest to are those who if I think about it are probably more or less compatible with in a relationship sense. I mean, I'm not seeking relationships with any of them, but there IS a reason that we're close, right? We're compatible, at least to an extent .

but thats just it innit - 'to an extent' - theres a big difference between being friends with someone and taking it to the next level.

mippio Escribi�:

Darkstarexodus Escribi�:

Seriously though, the female friends I'm closest to are those who if I think about it are probably more or less compatible with in a relationship sense. I mean, I'm not seeking relationships with any of them, but there IS a reason that we're close, right? We're compatible, at least to an extent .

but thats just it innit - 'to an extent' - theres a big difference between being friends with someone and taking it to the next level.

You will never know just how far that compatibility stretches UNLESS you take it to the next level.



I'm good friends with several girls I think that compatibility could potentially go far, but I'm not going to find that out because I'm happy just being friends with them and I'm actually quite happy in my relationship at the moment (it feels really good to be able to say that; we had a real good clear-the-air talk last week).

Darkstarexodus Escribi�:

mippio Escribi�:

Darkstarexodus Escribi�:

Seriously though, the female friends I'm closest to are those who if I think about it are probably more or less compatible with in a relationship sense. I mean, I'm not seeking relationships with any of them, but there IS a reason that we're close, right? We're compatible, at least to an extent .

but thats just it innit - 'to an extent' - theres a big difference between being friends with someone and taking it to the next level.

You will never know just how far that compatibility stretches UNLESS you take it to the next level.



I'm good friends with several girls I think that compatibility could potentially go far, but I'm not going to find that out because I'm happy just being friends with them and I'm actually quite happy in my relationship at the moment (it feels really good to be able to say that; we had a real good clear-the-air talk last week).

well this is true i suppose, the compatibility testing. but then do u ever know anything about 'the next level' untill you try it?



good to hear things are going well with yer missus mate, thats good news :D

mippio Escribi�:

well this is true i suppose, the compatibility testing. but then do u ever know anything about 'the next level' untill you try it?



good to hear things are going well with yer missus mate, thats good news :D

I'm a big fan of the next level. Maybe I've just grown more confident over the past year, but hypothetically speaking, if I WERE single, I would be seeking to test those boundaries, I think. Life passes too fast and I'd rather regret things I did than things I didn't.



And yeah, I'm much more content about things at the moment. I mean, we'll have to see how it goes, but I got a lot of things off my chest that I really needed to, and she did too and I think it was a wakeup call for both of us (especially her!!!).



I had completely decided to end it (ironically, I just didn't think we were compatible anymore) but was just waiting for the right time and place to do so with dignity and respect for both of us. But then she started being frustratingly nice (which is damn confusing!) and one night we just got into a really long talk where we both laid it out on the line.



It was one of those make-up or break-up talks. I just got sick of our relationship rollercoastering up and down. It takes a lot to end a 5-year+ relationship, but I was at that point.

Needless to say, having a wife that's 'friends' with you lot complicates this discussion.

toomuch'stash Escribi�:

Needless to say, having a wife that's 'friends' with you lot complicates this discussion.

X-D



My girl reads the forum from time to time, so I know what you mean.

it doesn't worry me, I know that the level of dedication to music most of you have renders many of you almost eunich-like... ;-)

Darkstarexodus Escribi�:

mippio Escribi�:

well this is true i suppose, the compatibility testing. but then do u ever know anything about 'the next level' untill you try it?



good to hear things are going well with yer missus mate, thats good news :D

I'm a big fan of the next level. Maybe I've just grown more confident over the past year, but hypothetically speaking, if I WERE single, I would be seeking to test those boundaries, I think. Life passes too fast and I'd rather regret things I did than things I didn't.



And yeah, I'm much more content about things at the moment. I mean, we'll have to see how it goes, but I got a lot of things off my chest that I really needed to, and she did too and I think it was a wakeup call for both of us (especially her!!!).



I had completely decided to end it (ironically, I just didn't think we were compatible anymore) but was just waiting for the right time and place to do so with dignity and respect for both of us. But then she started being frustratingly nice (which is damn confusing!) and one night we just got into a really long talk where we both laid it out on the line.



It was one of those make-up or break-up talks. I just got sick of our relationship rollercoastering up and down. It takes a lot to end a 5-year+ relationship, but I was at that point.

So she read that you've propositioned my husband, that you walk funny after watching Daft Punk videos... and... nevermind.



Breaking up is never an easy thing to do but I'm glad to hear this one ended on amicable terms, given the long term status and the overall feeling of being "comfortable" given how many years plus how young you both were in the beginning.



You'll both be fine. Such is life. If you need to blab you know where to find us.