If she's the one who has ended it then make sure she's left in no doubt that the future will be on YOUR terms,even if that means an end to all contact with her.

surface_to_air, what you said is just heartbreaking. How cruel of your ex to behave the way she did, it's one thing to break it off but to laugh at you over your mother's death is absolutely horrid. Your mother left this earth with love for you... and somehow some way she knows you love her and would do things differently if you could. I don't know what else to say but "sorry"... so so sad...

And iggy you're not looking in the right places for a girl!! There's got to be someone out there that will get down and dirty to Massive Attack or Chems with ya.

I'll send you a PM.

;)

jesus s2a - thats some heavy shit!!! sounds like 'rose' has been withdrawing very hard from the bank of karma and in all likelihood is gonna have to repay that debt at some point. harsh man.

i would just like to say that jeans is ace for many reasons some of which are:

1) she lectures people on the history of detroit techno

2) she knows the difference between an xlr cable and a balanced jack

3) shes the only person i know whose music taste is ALMOST as good as mine ;)

all i can suggest mx is to keep on keepin on mate - if somethings meant to be it will be.

oh and crikey Surface! How to move on? It's all to easy to think of those great times together, the hard part is not thinking about them because they make you feel good. It's all to easy, but if you're going to think about her focus on her negatives, she isn't that fit (you should see some of the jail bait that I attract) and the like. Or, kill her. You can spend your time in jail working on your pecks and abs and come out looking ripped.

ROFL! Very realistic advice iggy...

"Or, kill her. You can spend your time in jail working on your pecks and abs and come out looking ripped."

haha, but unfortunately, you'll learn the harsh realities of being a "catcher"

If it's your natural instinct to feel bad, then go feel bad! Don't let people tell you "You should cheer up" or "Move on." If you fight the body, you lose, period. Let it out and one day, you're gonna feel fantastic. I guarantee it, brotha.

Don't hate her or try to change her mind or anything like that. You never know what might happen down this curvy road called life..

Sound advice Gillenium, but when you say "you never know what might happen" I hope you don't mean they might get back together. She sounds like evil, you can't let evil back in once you've exorsised it.

"haha, but unfortunately, you'll learn the harsh realities of being a "catcher"" -Bosco

or the 'toss the salad guy' http://www.youtube.c...h?v=077UtUWGQOA

I don't know what to say.

Well, I personally have to be careful what I say on here, she posts sometimes. I forget what her user name is though. She only likes them chems because I like the chems >_>.

Anyway, I feel sorry for you mx. And I hope things will work out. We missed you!!

Ok Iguana, I see your point, I to am light hearted, but was just stating that its good to talk sometimes! I do agree with you almost 100% on not finding girl who loves 'good music or the chems' well not to our tastes clearly, but with of course exception to the lovely ladies who are massive chems fans on this forum. My girlfriend tollerates thechems, but I live and breathe music and often find myself wondering why cant u just see the beauty of this track, please, for funk's sake! On her facebook she has listed the chems as one of her fave artists, but they are last on the list nd I can't help but wonder if its just to keep me happy!? I asked her if she fancied going to Birmingham to see the Chems livein December...'No to near xmas'...So thats the only reason im not going, and im not going on my own, im from Somerset so its a bit far to travel like! Huh, it's depressing sometimes, you people are the only ones who I know who have wonderful, eclectic tastes in music! So thank you all.

First off, best wishes, MX. Hope things will work out for you one way or another.

My opinion is that to continue to be best friends will see your emotions used like a cheap whore. I'm not saying to cut her out of your life completely but I think taking some time and distance would be advised.

If you continue to be so close she will get all the benefits she's enjoyed having you as a best friend while getting to shag another guy and kill your soul. It's either stand and fight for her to the death or withdraw (upon which she'll either fight to get you back or you'll pull it together and get through it).

Over the past year I'd developed feelings for a close friend of mine. Despite warnings from everyone that she was quite the headcase (which I knew) I decided to go for it. She wasn't interested in me that way, she said (which I know is crap, as she'd been giving me the come-on for a couple years). Couple weeks later she's dating a mutual friend. Whatever, fuck it, I said. Started giving her the cold shoulder for a couple weeks. Next thing I know she's making out with me on the dancefloor. I gave her a chance as a friend again recently and was burned a bit again. We're going out for lunch this week and she's getting the cold shoulder. Why? Because I thrive on the pain of others. Because she'll want me more. Because I'm a jerk. Because I'm not willing to do all the giving in our friendship/relationship.

bloody hell mipps! just keep rubbing it in why don't ya? :mrgreen:

mx - sorry to here that dude. distraction is the best action.

surface_to_air - Thats fucking awful mate, wish I had some advice but can't think of any!

V_man - I'm going to Manchester on my own in December to see the Chems - I have trouble finding reliable people to go to gigs with but I've decided I'm not gonna let it stop me if I really want to go. Daft Punk came to my home city last June (o2 Wireless Festival) and there was no way I was gonna miss out on that so went on my own I did.

Sounds like a plan Iggy...lol

I've had a girl who I got to like doing it to 'Fatboy Slim - Love Life' :-)

mcmarsh, Tyler is looking to meet people at the manchester gig. You should get in touch, he's left his details on the contact thread

Darkstar, I don't think you're a jerk!! I do think you're acting as plenty of us would, given your circumstances.

This is going to sound kind of weird but I had a strange cough syrup induced dream earlier today where mips came over to my house for some tea and he was talking about the things he loves about Jeanie. :lol:

Oh god *rolls eyes* at least that's a normal dream. My cock fell off, what the fuck does that mean!?

Whirly, thanks. I know I'm not a jerk. Well, most of the time anyways. But I can be more than a little cruel when it amuses and suits me. :)

I've been having dreams about coke a lot lately. I've been taking 5-HTP + melatonin to help me sleep and it's made vivid dreaming a nightly occurrence. It's kinda creepy dreaming about railing lucious piles of white snow....