I can see where your friend is coming from about not wanting to be socially shunned by a society, but not wanting change that would benefit not only him, but his community - I don't understand. I'm not gay so it's not my place to say how someone should feel or react to this - but to me it's not about a changing of minds - it's about progress and society moving forward. It would be interesting to read his take just to see where he's coming from and understand his points.
Allowing gay marriage (or civil unions) is practically about allowing rights.
The more I read, the more I find disturbing those who are anti-gay and the religious zealots' perceived ownership of the word "marriage". A legally binding union, or marriage, or legal partnership, etc. whatever you want to call it is more than just standing in front of a preacher and reciting wedding vows. stash and I didn't have a wedding, we didn't go to a preacher - we had a quickie 'you are now husband and wife' 4 minute ceremony (if you want to call it that) in a county clerk's office... in Vegas. And ever since that day we get to enjoy and utilize the legalities our union affords while so many others don't even have the option. I think that's wrong. Less than 100 years ago people were saying the same thing about blacks marrying whites in the US. I know I'm kind of ranting here but I'm really not directing at anyone in particular - just typing out blah blah's...